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I thought I would post a list of personal epiphany. Some of them are still works in progress and I welcome comments and discussion on any of it. Some are core values of mine. Some are simple discoveries. Listed in no paticular order and also not numbered because any one is not more important than the other. Enjoy.
List of Epiphanies:
• Love and Sex are not the same thing.
• Love and Trust do not automatically go together, they should but do not.
• I love my Dad.
• My Mother is actually a smart person that hides it more than I hide my own intelligence from myself.
• Just because someone is family does not mean that you need to or have to love them or trust them. Because of blood or marriage is does not mean that they automatically are respected or loved.
• You can Hate someone and Love them at the same time.
• We (as in humans) are ALL judgmental. Even when we say it is not our place to judge we do form an opinion. Sometimes that opinion is based on very little facts and give “the full story” the opinion might not change. We are all hypocritical, prejudice, and Judgmental. For both good and bad reasons.
• I try to be Judgmental on both sides of an issue to understand it. Understanding both sides of the matter is key to forming your own opinion, or rather crafting your opinion that you already made with more depth even if that opinion is a complete reversal or change from what it was.
• You can’t demand Love. You can’t buy it. You can’t change it. It is an elemental force. How you deal with it is what matters.
• Your thoughts, opinions, AND actions define you. Not your birth or your “Physicality”.
• Your personality is the tools to charter your life through the ocean of time.
• I do not need to change myself to fit in. I sometimes forget this and need to either relearn or remember/be reminded of this one.
• I am prejudice against “Mexicans” or rather the “Latino” point of view and values. I fight it and try not to but the closer someone fits the mental “Mexican” Image the less I think of them. The “Mexican” Image is the type of Mexican/American that doesn’t learn English, doesn’t want to work or is the “Wetback” point of view, does not wish to educate themselves or be educated, does not mind welfare and even has a goal to be on it if they can, clings to their “Cultural Values” as a shield of anti-oppression or sympathy gathering device (conscious or not), and also has values that treat women as property, family as a gang, and hold anybody richer than themselves with contempt. As I said this is a Prejudice. I fight this as much as I can. Also, It must be said that not everyone that is “Hispanic” or “Latino” or “Mexican/American” fits this or are even thought of in this way, Much like “Blond” is no longer a hair color, “The Mexican Image” is no longer a matter of physical descent.
• I dislike begging because it inherently demeans the person begging and also in a holistic sense demeans every human being alive, including me. It is insulting on an elemental level to me. Asking for help is not begging, neither is asking for help with promise to pay back or in exchange for services.
• I am capable of creating beauty,
• I am capable of creating music.
• Every human alive is beautiful, in their own way. Sometimes it is obvious, sometimes it is not. The same goes for Uglyness, every human is ugly in their own way.
• There is so much beauty in the world that one bumps into it about every second. You only need to pay attention.
• Stealing is wrong.
• Lying is wrong, sometimes necessary but always wrong. Lying cheats yourself too.
• Children are generally more perceptive than we give them credit for. Sometimes they are not bold enough to say what the see and sometimes they are not sure of what they see. We should listen to them more often. Children often are riddles in their mannerisms and perceptions.
• Belief in oneself is a powerful thing. Putting that power to positive use is a key.
• Belief is changeable and another force of nature. Luckily we are In partial control of this force when it applies to ourselves.
• Things happen for a reason. Finding that reason or creating that reason is a challenge that is worthy of the endeavor. Always.
• You can love more than one person at a time and humans often do.
• Loving multiple people even intimately does not cancel out or invalidate ANY of the other loves.
• Time is a limiting factor in most cases of love.
• Quality AND Quantity are both important where love is conserned, as well as timing. Finding the balance is the hardest thing humans can do. Almost NEVER is the perfect balance found. This still does not invalidate ANY of the love for any of the Loved ones. Perception is the key and communication is the act of using that key. The door is simply a buffer or a barrier that we use to protect ourselves from harm.
List of Epiphanies:
• Love and Sex are not the same thing.
• Love and Trust do not automatically go together, they should but do not.
• I love my Dad.
• My Mother is actually a smart person that hides it more than I hide my own intelligence from myself.
• Just because someone is family does not mean that you need to or have to love them or trust them. Because of blood or marriage is does not mean that they automatically are respected or loved.
• You can Hate someone and Love them at the same time.
• We (as in humans) are ALL judgmental. Even when we say it is not our place to judge we do form an opinion. Sometimes that opinion is based on very little facts and give “the full story” the opinion might not change. We are all hypocritical, prejudice, and Judgmental. For both good and bad reasons.
• I try to be Judgmental on both sides of an issue to understand it. Understanding both sides of the matter is key to forming your own opinion, or rather crafting your opinion that you already made with more depth even if that opinion is a complete reversal or change from what it was.
• You can’t demand Love. You can’t buy it. You can’t change it. It is an elemental force. How you deal with it is what matters.
• Your thoughts, opinions, AND actions define you. Not your birth or your “Physicality”.
• Your personality is the tools to charter your life through the ocean of time.
• I do not need to change myself to fit in. I sometimes forget this and need to either relearn or remember/be reminded of this one.
• I am prejudice against “Mexicans” or rather the “Latino” point of view and values. I fight it and try not to but the closer someone fits the mental “Mexican” Image the less I think of them. The “Mexican” Image is the type of Mexican/American that doesn’t learn English, doesn’t want to work or is the “Wetback” point of view, does not wish to educate themselves or be educated, does not mind welfare and even has a goal to be on it if they can, clings to their “Cultural Values” as a shield of anti-oppression or sympathy gathering device (conscious or not), and also has values that treat women as property, family as a gang, and hold anybody richer than themselves with contempt. As I said this is a Prejudice. I fight this as much as I can. Also, It must be said that not everyone that is “Hispanic” or “Latino” or “Mexican/American” fits this or are even thought of in this way, Much like “Blond” is no longer a hair color, “The Mexican Image” is no longer a matter of physical descent.
• I dislike begging because it inherently demeans the person begging and also in a holistic sense demeans every human being alive, including me. It is insulting on an elemental level to me. Asking for help is not begging, neither is asking for help with promise to pay back or in exchange for services.
• I am capable of creating beauty,
• I am capable of creating music.
• Every human alive is beautiful, in their own way. Sometimes it is obvious, sometimes it is not. The same goes for Uglyness, every human is ugly in their own way.
• There is so much beauty in the world that one bumps into it about every second. You only need to pay attention.
• Stealing is wrong.
• Lying is wrong, sometimes necessary but always wrong. Lying cheats yourself too.
• Children are generally more perceptive than we give them credit for. Sometimes they are not bold enough to say what the see and sometimes they are not sure of what they see. We should listen to them more often. Children often are riddles in their mannerisms and perceptions.
• Belief in oneself is a powerful thing. Putting that power to positive use is a key.
• Belief is changeable and another force of nature. Luckily we are In partial control of this force when it applies to ourselves.
• Things happen for a reason. Finding that reason or creating that reason is a challenge that is worthy of the endeavor. Always.
• You can love more than one person at a time and humans often do.
• Loving multiple people even intimately does not cancel out or invalidate ANY of the other loves.
• Time is a limiting factor in most cases of love.
• Quality AND Quantity are both important where love is conserned, as well as timing. Finding the balance is the hardest thing humans can do. Almost NEVER is the perfect balance found. This still does not invalidate ANY of the love for any of the Loved ones. Perception is the key and communication is the act of using that key. The door is simply a buffer or a barrier that we use to protect ourselves from harm.